AITA for asking a friend for my money back?
I have been working for the same company with my father and a friend of mine (of 13 years)
About two years ago my father knew this friend of mine was looking for a job so he told me to ask him if he wants to come to his workplace. He gladly accepted and after a short while I came to work there as well.
During this two year period, he bought a lot of stuff that was very expensive for him (motorcycle, school for motorcycle license and three smartphones, the newest iphone for his girlfriend, an android and another iphone). He then worked a lot of supplementary hours to afford paying up for these, it was still not enough so he started to ask me for money so he can go to dates with his girlfriend, obuy cigarettes and food, or pay some stuff related to his father which I dont recall.(he also some of his money from work to buy league of legends wild rift skins and other in game purchases for other games).
During all of this I lost track of how much money he had to give back but it was somewhere in the range of 1000€-1500€. I did not pressure him to give the money back at all until my father found out that i gave him money all this time and got very upset and told me that I should not give money like this to someone so they can just buy whatever they want knowing that I will always accept to help them pay their purchases up.
Then my father told me to get my money back. I messaged my friend and he told me that he will get some money from work and for another friend to pay me up, telling me that it is all his fault and he will help me solve this issue with my father so that I wont get into trouble. The next day he switched up a bit and told me that my father is an asshole and that he can only give me a lower amount of money than the one he initially proposed. I accepted that amount and he paid it full over the course of the week.
After a few days he started avoiding me at work, not even looking in my direction, not saying a word. It looked like he didnt want to have anything to do with me anymore.
Another week passed and one day he showed up late at the spot where he was supposed to wait to get picked up by my father, which made my father not wanting to wait for him to show up because he used to do this a lot, or even waking up late or taking days off and not telling a word so we were waiting for him to show up for no reason. I then messaged him that we drove past him and he got very upset about this, he started cursing me and said that he will talk to the manager about this because we use the car provided by the workplace so my father was responsible for picking everyone up.
I basically helped this guy out all of my life, took him to the same highschool as me, gave him money so he can actually pay up the bus driver when we went to school, i even shared my food with him because he didnt have any.
I genuinely don’t know what to think about all of this.