How to avoidant process a breakup
My partner (23, male) ended our relationship bc of emotional stress. He convinced himself that it was my fault and he did everything correctly even though we always argued bc of his behavior (he kicked me out, left me on special occasions, manipulated me etc)
Hearing that he only says it's my fault although i tried everything to support him hurts me. He even made up stuff only to be in the right und said that coming back to me would be like betraying himself bc I am bad for him.
Mind you i did everything for him cooking, cleaning and even took care of his hygiene like bathing him. So basically wife stuff plus more and even protected him from his weird family that hated me. His family doesn't even believe in him , because he is the Black sheep of the family. So I was his only supporter and tried to help him make something out of his life.
He even brought me my stuff back after 6 days of our breakup and told me i would never see or hear from him again as he doesn't want me in his life + we could never be friends.
8 hours later he send me a video that we always used to watch together on my tiktok (i told him not to send me that shit anymore) and 5 days later he said he wants to be friends in the future
So here is my question: how to avoidant people cope with a breakup?
He is all alone. Yes he has his family and two friends but he never talks to them about his feelings or somethings so he just distracts himself to not confront them. He even used to drink in the first week now he started doing sports.
Can someone get over a breakup without ever accepting his feeling and just pushing them down and hope they eventually go away? Do they ever realize what they lost and want to make it right? Do the feelings come back once you see your significant other again? Do they manage do go back do not feeling anything and being all alone and lonely again or will they miss the other person forever? Is there like a process to it?
On top of it his routine since I have been gone is going to work, come back home to his parents later go back to his appartement and go to sleep. On Fridays and Saturdays he stays up late to play video games or go drinking with his friends. Besides that he is only at home all alone and never goes out.
Besides that idk if he wants to annoy me or not, but he started using his ps4 again after our breakup which is still under my account and started buying stuff. The weird thing about it is that he always uses his ps5. He only got the ps4 so that i could play minecraft with him and since I am gone now there is no reason to use it anymore. The weird thing is that i started getting this weird purchase notifications (spotify and the playroom vr). He hasn't logged me out of the ps4 and started buying this weird stuff under my account. I don't know much about the ps4 but i find it pretty weird considering the fact that he wants to remove me completely from his life. On top of that he only has online friends to play with so there is no one else that could use the ps4 and he only plays games like rainbow, minecraft and apex.
Maybe i should mention that he is a very proud person and a manchild (not as much as before bc i changed him) I know we are not together anymore, but i still worry about him even though i shouldn't. Sorry for my bad grammar.