My boyfriend (we’ve been together for a year) is honestly everything I thought a healthy relationship should be. He’s emotionally available, never shown any red flags, is very open with me (even with his phone), talks about our future, and consistently makes me feel loved. He even posts me on his social media, so overall things have been going really well.
Recently though, I noticed something that’s been bothering me. I was going through his Instagram following (I know, not my best moment), and while the number of girls he follows isn’t crazy or anything, I saw that he has liked almost every single picture of some of these girls. They’re not inappropriate or half-naked pictures, and he says all of them are people he knows from school or college.
But seeing him like every single post from certain girls didn’t sit right with me. It made me uncomfortable, even though I can’t fully explain why.
When I brought it up, he got quite defensive and said I was making “dirty accusations” about him. He explained that it’s normal, that he knows these people personally, and that liking their pictures doesn’t mean anything. He also said maybe it’s a “big city thing” that I wouldn’t understand since I’m from a smaller town and went to an all-girls school.
Now I’m confused. On one hand, he’s never given me a reason to doubt him, and everything else in the relationship feels secure. On the other hand, this still doesn’t feel good to me, and I don’t know if I’m overthinking or if my feelings are valid.
Am I overreacting here, or is this something worth being concerned about?