AITA for NEVER sleeping over at my boyfriends moms house?
Bf(21) (let’s call him Jake) knows I’m posting this and wants to see who people think is the asshole.
Context (it’s important): My sister and I have been friends with Jake’s sister (let’s call her Jane) for a long time (before I even met Jake). About 7 years ago, my sister had a slept over with Jane at her (and Jake’s) mom’s house. She had a really scary “supernatural” experience. Her relaying this to me was terrifying, she was quite traumatized by the experience.
His mom has told him that when he was little, he had seen things there, even though he doesn’t remember it now. His sister has also said she’s seen things. I’ve been dating him for almost 5 years, and I genuinely love his mom, so this has nothing to do with not liking her or judging her house.
I’ve gone to the house plenty of times, but I’ve never slept over or stayed later than like 1am. There was one situation there that I still can’t explain, and it has stuck with me.
I have never and will never sleep at the house, I explained this and my reasoning in the very beginning of our relationship, and he has never understood why I feel the way I do.
I believe in demons, so stuff like this affects me deeply. I’m already the kind of person who gets scared of horror movies and holds onto those images for ages, so I feel like staying there overnight would make me anxious and maybe traumatize me if something happened.
Also, I sleep over at his dad’s all the time since that’s where he actually lives.
Now for the issue at hand: My boyfriend is house sitting for his mom for 2 nights and is mad at me because I don’t want to sleep over.
He’s also upset because he feels like if I think it’s too scary, then why would I “let” him be there alone. But I’m not trying to tell him not to sleep there, that’s his mom’s house, I just personally feel uncomfortable and scared. Plus anyway, when I ask him “aren’t you scared”, he says “it’s just a house”.
He says that I never bring up demons in other situations, like if we stay at an Airbnb or somewhere else, and thinks it doesn’t make sense that I’m only like this about his mom’s house.
Am I being unreasonable here, is he being unreasonable here?
Edit: the experiences weren’t just hearing the wind rustling or a few squeaky floorboards or whatever. They SAW things and HEARD things that weren’t physically there to make that noise.