Apols if this is off topic - I just think it's a very relevant aspect of moving on from divorce (has been for me), and while I've explored reddit quite a bit seeing what other people experience, I've found this a bit of a gap. I'm after honestly, not simping, but also not 'pilled' or manosphere ranting. Not here to hate on women, but just to get the kind of raw advice I give and get from male friends when we're talking about our post divorce life over a beer.
Dating over 40 is very female dominated, and advice is often quite bad from a male perspective. Eg any guy in the process of a divorce gets 30 women who've probably all been burnt telling him he has no business dating until the legal process (which can take years) is done. This is crap, my psych and GP both encouraged it, just gently admonishing me to be honest and ethical and try seek women in the same boat.
Many of us kind of appreciate women who are or perhaps look a bit younger, but the Age Gap Relationship sub is mainly people who are like 25 years or more apart, which isn't what I'm after. I'd like to see discussions of pluses and minuses there, and strategies for meeting whatever women each of us is after (I'm just over 50 and would like to meet more 38-43 year olds). I have also seen some great arguments from male friends about why they DON'T pursue that, including 2 who only date women post menopause!
Dating over 40 also deals with this issue with gross hypocrisy, as it's so gendered - women talking about younger men get cheered on, but men a treated like creeps even if they are logical (eg a guy just over 40 wanting to have more kids got caned for saying he was looking for a woman in her 30s, with comment after comment demanding to know if he'd had his balls checked out).
Related stuff I'd like to see more honest chat about includes cialis is your friend, counselling is your friend, and why isn't the gym easy etc.
Any tips people? And if you feel like discussing any of the above right here, go for it, I will be responsive.