Advice or rant?
Assalamualaykum,
I’ve got to rant, I’m the oldest child and growing up I was told not to hang out with guys, don’t speak to them, don’t look their way, etc. You get the gist.
I’m in my mid-20s and annoyed that I cannot hold a conversation to a guy even when it’s mainly platonic like at a work place or uni. I was brought up with the strictest parents and now in my adult life, they’ve got too much on their hands to focus on me and my siblings.
Right, I’ve got a sister who goes out and hangs out with a guy alone till late night. I’ve got a brother who’s just turned an adult and has been meeting up with girls alone with no other male friends. I would say I’m jealous that I wish I should’ve done that too. I know it’s not halal. But I get envious of missing out on life, lacking socially and feel like I’m just wasting my life.
Trust me, I still wouldn’t behave like this and it is getting harder seeing other people are enjoying their days while I’m stuck at what I even want to do for my future; work wise and spouse wise.