Anyone else got gaslighted and almost declared crazy, because of their delayed emotional processing?
Note: Alexithymia is the term for it and not related to trauma.
Let me give an example. I go to a physiotherapist. I like it there and go there for 3 sessions. Everything is fine. One day later I say: "I hate that physiotherapist. I don't trust him I won't go there anymore." Out of seemingly nowhere.
My parents gaslight me by saying: "But you liked it in the first sessions. Suddenly out of nowhere you don't like it. You always do this."
I go one more session and the physiotherapist ends up hurting me. I say: "Look I told you this guy sucks." after that I did not go again.
Another example. My parents say something. I react normally. Then two days later I realize, that I didn't feel good about what was said and bring it up to them. They say: "Two days ago you didn't say anything and suddenly you make a problem of it in your own mind" (like I'm just some crazy person who invents issues out of nowhere, because I didn't react in time)
Another example was a friendship. I hung out with her. Had a great time. Days later I'm like: "I don't trust her that's not a good friend." My parents: "But you had a great time with her why do you hate her out of nowhere?" Years later I find out she was not a real friend to me.
Basically anytime something happens and I realize much later, that I didn't like it I'm made out to be some crazy person who makes up issues in her own head.
For years I thought I'm paranoid or must have some trauma, that makes me mistrustful of people out of nowhere. Meanwhile the whole time I was just reacting to signals and patterns I was picking up and processing.
Edit: (bc someone in the comments made a good addition) it can also show up as not knowing how to feel about something in the moment and just having this blank feeling, until way later you realize how you really felt about something.