Hi, does anyone have any advice or resources for explaining polyamory to your family/parents?
My parents aren't extremely conservative or Christian or anything, but they're having a hard time understanding. They don't like talking about feelings in person very much, so I'm thinking about making a booklet or PowerPoint using humor to give them a low down/give them space to process. They have mentioned that they have a lot of questions but are afraid to ask them. They keep bringing up the topic, so I assume they want to talk, but when I ask them about their questions, they keep saying that we can "get into it another time"). So I'm hoping sending resources so they can process first might help? I'm looking for y'all's help in two ways:
- Do you know any existing videos or info-graphics that might help explain polyamory to them? They won't read or watch/listen to anything longer than 10 minutes.
- What questions have your family members asked you before? I want to try to anticipate some of their questions, since they don't feel ready to share them with me yet.
3/Bonus) Any other advice you have would be greatly appreciated as well. Thank you!
Edit: I'd also love advice on what to do while my parents take the time they need to understand - in terms of holidays and them not wanting to get to know my other partner who I love equally to my fiance. It doesn't feel fair to exclude my boyfriend, but does that mean that I shouldn't see my parents? Or that my fiance should stay behind and I only see my parents alone? They live across the country, so I only get to see them a couple times a year. But even on phone calls, they tolerate hearing about my boyfriend, but won't engage. And they make me feel crazy for feeling hurt by that - saying that if I want them to respect my identities, then I have to respect theirs (aka: not have any issues with their issues with me) and that some parents disown their children for less so I should be glad they're not doing that. But they say it so calmly, so it doesn't feel as threatening in the moment, but it still hurts and it's hard to find the words to explain why. And if I pull away, they get angry that I'm letting "differences in opinion" get in the way of our relationship. I'm just rambling at this point. Thanks to those who listen & share advice. <3