My boyfriend has a group of friends he only knows on discord from gaming, but has known for years before we ever met. He introduced us since I game too, but over the past few months, they’ve been obsessed with constantly trying to “troll” me. It’s to a point where it just feels really childish and like harassment.
At first it was them doing weird things like sending his selfies and tagging random girls in discord servers, then sending screenshots to me try to get a reaction. Then they would message me and tell me he’s flirting with girls who literally do not exist. Then it went to them trying to find my real life information, for genuinely no reason other than to say they have it and probably harass me with it too.
I don’t even understand how it’s considered jokes. That’s how they joke with eachother, but I don’t know these people like that. They always say they are just “trolling” but it never feels like that on my end. He does tell them to stop, and they will for a while, but after a few weeks it just starts again. Blocking them does nothing either as they just create new accounts eventually. Even just writing this I feel dumb because it’s people on a damn app who we will probably never meet in real life, but it still sucks.
I finally got fed up after the last incident and told him to either cut them off, or cut me off. Trolling me on discord is one thing, but basically trying to dox me was way too far. I was so upset, but once I calmed down I started feeling really guilty for giving him an ultimatum and apologized. I never want to control who my partner can be friends with, even if they are just online, but I also feel like he shouldn’t want to hang out with people who are harassing me. He didn’t push back at all, no arguments and he agreed that they are being weird, but I still back tracked and told him I didn’t mean it.
I’m sorry if this all sounds so childish but it honestly is and I wish I didn’t let it get to me