AITAH for wanting to leave soemone while the direct their grief/anger towards me?
So long story short a guy I’m seeing, his dad is going down hill. Both my parnets are dead so I kinda know how it is lost my mom two years ago. Lost dad several years prior as a teenager. I’m 27f he’s 29m. At first I’m asking what do u need, do u want me to make food. Tidy up his place. Basically take something off his plate? Or if he needs space from me. I’ll give him space. I’m offering him a place to occasionally rest at my house to get away from it all. Also I’m trying to cover all the bases. And I explained ima try my best to console him. And help if I can. But it feels like I’m becoming an emotional punching bag for the man. He called everything I was asking or trying to do being more or less fake. Anything I text is taken the wrong way. Said I’m trying to make him fall in love expecting a relationship. I told him I’m not I’m just trying to be here for u. He’s calling me a bad adult not having a reign on my emotions etc. I get everyone goes through grief differently.
I honestly don’t know if I can handle it. According to him : I’m a bad adult, also selfish. How he has to hold me at arms length I’m to confrontational. But yet he likes me a lot he admits, but also he can’t do this with me anymore. How I used him, how everyone uses him. He explains he has very few friends by choice and he’s ok with tht. His world is exploding he says. I killed his sex drive also.
Feels like I’m on eggshells with everything I say or do.
I’m at my emotional end. To the point I’m putting up walls up to protect my emotions and I’m thinking about leaving and cutting all communication. But im trying to tell myself he’s just going through a lot.
AITAH for wanting to leave ?