My brother is a pathetic man and making it my problem
I (20F) have lived with my brother (28M) for a little over a year now. We come from a toxic abusive household with many siblings and he took off when I was a kid, so I didn’t know him that well during my teenage years. That being said the beginning of last year I had a very messy breakup and needed somewhere to live and luckily my brother had a room open in an old rundown townhouse, so I moved in.
Now the reason I’m making this vent post is because I graduate with my associates of social work in two days, first time walking the stage ever and excited for transfer and a future in education. Tonight he argued with me about human rights, statistics, psychology, and said verbatim “I live in society I know more about it than people who study it.” and “You’ve never done real research, I’ve researched more than you.” Basically saying all the work I’ve done the past two years means nothing.
This man was homeschooled most his life and went to high school for two years then dropped out, doesn’t even have a GED. He works in construction and doesn’t understand how to read big words, so he says they’re fake and scientists make them up to confuse the public.
Yes I know, I shouldn’t value an idiots opinion. But to have him “welcome me in with open arms” and provide an out from bad situation, just to turn into a bad situation is making me lose my mind.
He lives disgustingly, I stopped cleaning when I realized he treated it as free room service so the place is full of mold, grime, trash, and rotted food. It’s disgusting here. He is the most close minded, idiotic, arrogant man I’ve ever met. It’s so disappointing considering a few years ago all us siblings were preaching “break the cycle.”
He’s basically a manifestation of everything wrong with the anti social lonely men epidemic. He preaches how he’s a good honorable man, but in reality is weak, selfish, and apathetic. Also believes he’s entitled to a woman right now because he’s so great. During this argument he asked me “You’re not trans, why would you care about trans people?” Regardless how you feel about trans rights, that’s the dumbest question I’ve ever heard, it’s like asking “You’re not a child, why would you care about children?” This makes me question if he genuinely can’t feel empathy to a healthy extent, which is scary, because he is not a mentally stable man.
Anyway I’m writing this at 1:33 AM right now, I have work at 7. So sorry for any writing mistakes. I’m already applying to places and planning to move soon, this environment isn’t healthy and I don’t like who my brother is becoming, or is.
I work and go to school full time, and I’m going to try and enjoy my graduation regardless if my family thinks it means nothing, I’ve worked hard and deserve celebration and congratulations.