u/Large_Firefighter522

I have no clue what happened, but my husband has noticeably lost decent respect/mannerisms towards me. Here’s some examples FROM TONIGHT I noticed

1. When I’m talking to him, he does this hand motion rotation (as if he’s signaling me to speed up) it angers me and I tell him why are you and repeat the motion. And he says I have to work or I have to go to bed. Like the rushing hand motion is so rude when someone is talking. I don’t know why he can’t just say: sorry, I have to go we can talk more about this later. I have told him about this and apologizes but he has a bad habit to keep doing it. And the argument continues cause he keeps doing it.

2. I tell him i was thinking we can try to move the couch a few inches off against the window. He immediately is quick to say no that’s going to be fuckin disaster and stupid and started rambling I honestly get annoyed cause he raises his voice too as if he gets defensive . I have corrected him and say no don’t talk to me like that. I said why don’t you try saying: ok let me move it for you and let me know what you think and form an opinion moving there. He then corrects himself and says ok let me move it for you but don’t be surprised if it looks bad and I was right all along.

3. I tell him if I get pregnant, my body will change do you think you can handle my body changing and looking different? (Seeing his response) and he said your body is not going to change you’re gonna be the same. And I said no, everyone experiences pregnancy differently. And then he said you’re my wife you’re beautiful why does that even matter at the end of the day I’ll still come back home. And I said it matters cause you’re going to see beautiful women around you and I might not look possibly as best but you need to have the discipline to say I’m still your beautiful wife. Meaning you acknowledge beautiful women are around you but they don’t matter to you cause you have eyes for me. (And he then says that I’m insecure ( as if my point sounded ridiculous) I have argued with him that that’s my answer and if you can’t accept the multiple standards then I don’t want to have children.

I feel like I’m not asking for much. Maybe over the years I let my guard down but I never noticed it this bad as tonight. I made another post for advice and someone immediately said they believe my husband is consuming in red pill content. But you don’t talk to a woman like that even your wife, the wife of your children? I never talk to my husband like that either. Like I’m not sure if it’s the content, being around too much male figures or also the reason my husband never had a father figure in his life to teach him.

My husband went from a provider to switching up completely wanting me to get a job. I told him I can work im willing to so I have a job now.

He told me he was upset with how much things needed to get done and i Told him Let’s split up the chores. We talked about daily chores and then decided all the chores are my chores. I said where’s your chores? He’s like fixing around the new house. I said I don’t see them listed.

He then complained that I shouldn’t complained about my chores that it was a part of growing up.

He also before claimed I needed to do 50/50 in money and I said I wasn’t cause it’s not for me. So we been going back and forth on this. But I’m not going to overwhelm myself with multiple daily tasks everyday after work. Just feels unnecessary, some things can wait. Plus I like getting my hours of well rested sleep and getting time to get dressed cause my appearance and energy matters in my role.