u/Laraujo31

I manage 3 multi family properties (one of them my childhood home) for my parents who are retired and live in the US part time. Right now i have my grandmother living in one of the apartments and another relative with her special needs daughter living in another. The other apartments are occupied with tenants who have been there for years. The city that the properties are located in is across the river from NYC and the houses are on the same block. Since my parents bought these properties before the prices skyrocketed, the monthly costs are low. This has allowed me to keep the rents well below average for everyone. Recently two things happened. My cousins teenage daughter got pregnant and one of my tenants will be moving back to his country to retire. When my cousin found out she said it would be a good idea if i let her daughter live in the vacant apartment. The issue is that I don't want to rent to her because A. I intend on renting the apartment full market price and B her daughter is problematic and I do not want to deal with it. Additionally my cousin has a house with plenty of room. Ever since the girl was young my cousin would pawn her off on other people. She would leave her at people's houses on weekends, etc. I feel like this is one of those situations. When i told my cousin no she said i should have sympathy for her because she is currently battling cancer. I reminded her that she has a house with plenty of room but she said she cannot deal with a newborn while battling cancer. I then reminded her that she has a husband and 2 adult sons who can help out. If the girl had no where to go then I would absolutely help her out but that is not the case here. I understand that my cousin has cancer but i feel like the parents do not want to take responsibility for their pregnant teenage daughter and it is not my problem to deal with. I'm not even close to her daughter either and quite frankly she is disrespectful to the family and I know she will cause problems for me if she were to move into one of the apartments. AITA

Edit - My cousin wanted me to charge her daughter reduced rent like my grandmother (my cousins aunt). She will not pay the full market rent so there is no issues with fair housing etc. Additionally, they know not to ask my parents because they will just defer to me. My parents know the situation and they said do what I think is best. My brother has equal say and he said the same thing.

I have an older friend who is on disability. Since he is alone i look out for him, run errands with him, and take him to dr appointments. He is able to drive but he would rather go with someone. This past year he has been in and out of the hospital and i have been his ride home. Usually it doesn't take too much of my time. However, his requests have begun to be a bit much. On two occasions he asked me take him to events (1 being 2 hrs away) and i was gone all day on a Saturday. Last week he asked me to take him to a friends birthday party which i declined because i was busy that evening. What annoyed me was that he said that i should be able to because my thing was at night and the party was during the day. I still said no because i had things to do during the day. He asked me today if i was able to take him to an event next week. I told him no and that going forward I will not be taking him to events. I told him i don't mind taking him to dr appointments or to run errands but i draw the line at taking him to birthday parties, etc. When he asked why i told him that i don't want to spend my day with people i don't know and that I have a wife and kids to attend to. I barely see my family during the week so i like to keep my weekends free to hang out with them and I also don't feel like driving all day. Sometimes I just want to hang out on the couch or go to the park. He got upset and said he thought he could count on me which i said he could but he needs to realize that I have my own responsibilities. He stated that he does not see the big deal because he doesn't need a ride every weekend which i responded it does not matter how frequent i just don't want to spend my day with people I do not know and to not ask me for rides to these things because my answer will be no. He said that he has no way to get to these things because his friends and family live far but he is well off so paying for uber is an option for him. I also think he is being selfish because he is not respecting my reason and is acting entitled as if I have to give him a ride. AITA?

I have a former boss who i have maintained a friendship over the years. He is currently disabled but he made some good financial decisions in his youth so he is well off now. Although he is a good guy he is extremely moody and is known to be selfish. Because of this he is alone so I look out for him and give him rides to go grocery shopping etc. This past year he has been in and out of the hospital so he gave me power of attorney in the case he is incapacitated. He also will be leaving me everything in his will. He sent me copies of his documents a few months ago which i looked over but not in detail. Last week he asked if we could meet up to go over it but I was busy because i was getting work done in my house. What annoyed me was that he said that I was not the one working so i should be able to run out. I told him i needed to be there in case the guys needed something and my wife did not feel comfortable being in a house with 2 strangers. That weekend wound up being hectic because my basement flooded so i had to handle that on top of having the work done in the house. On top of this, my friend called me multiple times Saturday. When i finally picked up Saturday evening he asked me if i read the will and i told him no because i was busy. Come Sunday, he again calls me multiple times and leaves a nasty voice mail in the afternoon. I call him in the evening and said wtf is your problem I told you i was busy this weekend. He blows up on me and tells me if i don't want to be the one in charge of his affairs i should tell him and he will find someone else. I told him that was not the case i was just busy that weekend and that I cannot stop my life to attend to his issues. He did not like this answer and told me that he understands i have things going on but i need to realize that this is important which i replied it is but its not an emergency. I also told him that my home and my family are my priority so if he needs to be #1 than he needs to find someone else. AITA

Edit* I also want to add that I told him that i would be the executor of his will but to not leave me anything because A. i am doing this as his friend and B. I do not want people assuming my healthcare decisions over him were influenced financially. He is adamant about not wanting any life preserving measures (dialysis, being intubated, etc.) done so this was a big concern of mine but he insisted since i am the only friend that has not taken advantage of him and his family doesn't look for him. He did put his wishes in his will at my request.