I think my(25F) relationship with my best friend(24F) is becoming unhealthy for me. I just love her way too much for my own good.
I always try my best to solve every problem she has, even at my own expense. Some examples: I wrote all notes for her throughout varsity as she partied, and after varsity I got her a job at my work place, which is making me look bad cause she’s not putting in much effort in her work, I let her borrow my clothes even though she’s 4 sizes bigger than me and stretches them out, I let it slide when she spreads my ideas as her own to impress people, I let her stay in my 1bed apartment rent free for 9 months until we got a place together.
We’re super connected and it kinda feels like a marriage. I don’t like it when she hangs with other friends without me, and I wanna not care cause that’s a totally normal thing to do.
How do I stop doing so much? I wanna have a normal relationship with her, not one where I’m constantly doing too much and feeling weird when I find out she has other friends.
What is this feeling? I don’t want it