About to turn 30, thinking about things
I'm asexual and possibly aromatic, too. At least I've never felt the desire to pursue a relationship with anyone beyond friendships. When you're a kid, life is easy. Your parents and the adults around you tell you where to go and what to do. As you get older, you gain more freedom, but even then, there's a generic plan laid out for most people. Get an education, get a job, meet someone, have kids, raise them, grow old together, and retire...
As someone who doesn't have the desires necessary to follow this formula, i wonder what future is waiting for me? Maybe some of you aren't aromatic, and so pieces of that formula can still exist for you? Maybe you still want to have kids or adopt, despite lacking the desire for sex? Is anyone like me? Not wanting sex or romance, and feeling directionless on the kind of future I'm supposed to be building for myself?
Maybe I pour myself into my hobbies, surround myself with friends, and hope for the best... will I feel fulfillment from this kind of life when I'm 80? Whenever you see idealized futures for people in media, its always the older family man or woman smiling happily at their children or grandkids. You never see the childless asexual thriving happily into their old age... I wonder what kind of future is waiting for me. Maybe it's only hard for me to envision a happy one because I never see it depicted in media in the way the former scenario is? Or maybe I'm right to worry because children and the family that come from them create much needed structure that helps support us emotionally and physically into our old age...