Am I right to be concerned about my SIL?
Kind of a long one... But here goes...
I am concerned about my SIL. She's 32, and her fiance is 21. They've known each other just under a year, and got engaged after 5 months. They're planning their wedding for November. I just don't think this is going to go well. I'm seeing red flags all over him. But nobody seems to care apart from my husband...
These are why I have concerns:
She's been engaged twice before, but called it off for numerous reasons.
He cannot hold down a job for more than 2 weeks. In the time they've been together he's had 5 jobs.
She had cancer a few years ago, and while she's in remission now, she has a bucket list of things she wants to do/see/experience/achieve. Marriage was one of them.
My inlaws own a property that she lives in, which she moved him into after 3 weeks. He previously was living in assisted accommodation.
He says he might want children one day, she cannot have children due to the cancer.
They have zero money between them, and he's in debt up to his eyeballs.
It all just seems too soon.
I tried to voice my concerns when she said she wanted "honest opinions" but apparently she didn't. I just feel like I'm watching a train wreck in slow motion.
Am I right? What should I do? Should I just let it happen? I feel so stuck because I want to help but seemingly cannot.