u/LadyWaistlinedown

I recently booked a holiday with my partner. It is our first holiday together and my first holiday since lockdowns. We're trying to keep costs down so have opted for carry on only luggage. When asking him to check if a carry on would be enough space for him, he didn't think about clothing, he went to see if he could fit his gaming laptop in. Wth? When I asked why he was taking his laptop he told me it was because he would "need" to game. *NEED* It has given me massive ick. Bare in mind he has told me he uses gaming as an escape. So his admission that he would still "need" to game when on holiday together makes me feels like utter shit. We don't live together as we're in different cities at the moment so I was looking forward to a week of being present with each other, relaxing, and going on adventures, not waiting on him to finish playing on a game he plays every day before we can do anything. AIO?? I know I need to have a conversation with him about this but perimenopause got me questioning whether I'm being hypersensitive or not with everything these days.

ETA: The games my partner plays on his laptop have hours long campaigns. They're not a ten minutes or even an hour here or there. I should have added that. I also should have stated that we have previously discussed and he has admitted to the fact his gaming is a crutch for avoiding difficulties/incompetencies that's why it hurt to hear him say he would need to game. Need. That is the word I am hung up on. I was not against him bringing a tablet or a smaller gaming device - his gaming laptop is a beast and it is the only thing he has checked to see will fit his luggage.

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u/LadyWaistlinedown — 13 days ago