Sharing the details
I'm (F28) 4 years post divorce. I'm dating this new person (M25).
I shared that I was divorced in the early stages of talking. Now we're 8 months dating.
And things are starting to naturally come up.
But I haven't really revealed the details of everything that lead into it.
I told him that my ex husband wasn't a good person. That he lied about random things. He kept secrets from me. He weaponized finances and spent large amounts of money after disagreements.
But I haven't shared yet that my ex threw things at me. Destroyed things around the homes we lived in. And sexually assaulted me. I'm just not ready to share something that vulnerable yet.
Unless you're a survivor of abuse, you wouldn't understand why sharing that is so challenging.
But I guess my question to those who have gone through this, how do you breach the topic of being an abuse survivor?
My boyfriend has been nothing but an absolute sweetheart. He's been super gentle and tender that I haven't needed to bring any behaviors of concern to his attention. But I also don't want to keep him in the dark forever since we're building a solid foundation for a long term relationship.