"Building a Life" with a non-nested partner?
Was talking about this recently with a partner and was explaining that building a life with a partner for me implies a level of enmeshment based on quality time and relationship milestones more than combining our entire life infrastructure (marriage, kids, cohabitation, etc).
I’m the non-nested one. He is married and nested. This is not something he has thought too much about before in this context, but it came up because I started differentiating between solitary date nights versus multiple consecutive days spent with a partner where there may be unstructured quality time. To me, this feels like building a life off the escalator and an evolution of how we spend our time together from curated compressed time where there’s some level of performance to just existing within a space together where we become more familiar with each others daily habits/routines, being able to sit in silence without constant conversation, relying more on ambiance, etc.
Now I’m really curious about others who are nested, but have additional serious partners.
What does building a life with those partners look like to you?