How to handle partner’s sudden dysregulation?
In my relationship I struggle a lot with my partner’s sudden dysregulation. She has a lot of stressors in her life which I think she is not managing well so she’ll have random emotional outbursts either through crying or nonstop tangents.
The sudden dysregulation triggers me significantly since when it happened with my dad, it was a sign of danger. My trauma response to it is I get irritated and upset with her and it causes me to spiral. She then starts feeling like my triggers are overshadowing her emotions. She said it is a non-negotiable for her in a relationship to be able to show up emotionally dysregulated. She essentially wants me to be able to comfort her in her time of need but I really struggle to do that half the time because I’m triggered and upset with her.
I’m already in EMDR therapy but wondering if anyone has experienced this before and has any tips?