What was it like? Did they have trauma too or are just FA/DA? Did you both talk about it before the first time or just go with the flow? Did they freeze or was it great the first time? Were they afraid of being judged or hurt emotionally? Do you know if they were? Did they tell you they wanted you then resented you after?
Did you try to connect or only thought about yourself? Did you see their hesitation or anxiety? Had you built emotional intimacy so you could talk those things out? What did you do to make them feel secure? What did they do for you? Why didn't you dump them if the sex stunk?
u/LNDelphine — 13 days ago