Right now I’m set on a 4.5/5 year track, however just went through my classes and saw that I will be able to graduate on time after all.
I already received my EA, but was wondering if anyone knows if it’s possible to change my commissioning date to the original fiscal year?
I plan on talking to my cadre, but wanted to know if anyone has experience with this.
We are in our 20s and he is very much the kind of person who always wants people treated right, no matter what.
Recently, we had a conversation about r@pe, and it sort of irked me because he just couldn’t seem to understand I guess.
It started because I saw a video about a self defense sleeve (basically barbed tube you put up there so if someone assaults you, they need it surgically removed and it’s immediate evidence of what they did). I asked him what he thought and he was appalled, whereas I thought it could be really helpful.
He kept saying things like ‘just carry a gun,’ or ‘that’s what pepper spray is for, if you have pepper spray they won’t get to you.’ He thinks it’s immoral, and that just because someone treats you immorally doesn’t mean you should possibly ruin/hurt them permanently, (he was not trying to defend rapists here, just their dicks I guess?).
He also kept saying that it could go so wrong like with someone forgetting it’s in, or people could take advantage of it to get back at cheating exes, etc. I fully understand and agree with that point, however when I brought up that they could easily hurt cheaters in other ways and that there’s plenty of ways other forms of defense can go wrong too, he still didn’t understand. He said that with guns and pepper spray, attackers see you reaching for it and know to turn away. He thinks those defenses are good because they give a warning.
When I brought up the point that attackers on a mission may not do that, or they may have their own weapons, or that not everyone has access to those forms of defense, he still didn’t understand.
I tried expressing my opinion, which is if the only thing stopping an assailant from hurting someone is the possibility of consequences for their actions, then they deserve to face those consequences without being warned. He didn’t seem to know what to say.
I kept trying to explain that it would be a last line of defense, and a solid assurance that a woman would have justice for being treated so inhuman, we just kept arguing. I wasn’t trying to come at it morally, but from a standpoint that it’s so hard to convict assaulters, and this could be very beneficial in that.
Am I just a bad person for thinking that even though a man will be in unbearable pain for an amount of time, it still would be good?
How do I explain to him so he understands? Or am I too harsh and being an issue here?