Long time observer here! Like the title says, I’m beginning to think that maybe it’s time I take back the ticket I got him.
I want people to understand something really quick and it’s that he’s a different culture than me entirely, me being half Asian & White vs him being full Filipino. I know family means a lot to him but his family has said plenty of disrespectful things about me behind my back directly to his face, which is why I’m not comfortable sharing a room with them anytime soon even for like 5 minutes. They’ve made it abundantly clear that I am not feminine enough, weak enough, I’m too loud, I have too many opinions, among many other things, and that they want nothing to do with me.
Recently, my partner was told by his mother to ask me for a ticket so he could sit with his parents and grandparents for his brother’s college graduation, who’s graduating with me as well. I know it didn’t cost any money (and there’s a limit on how many guests/tickets per graduate) but it feels like I’m being taken advantage of despite me asking for him to be there for me for this one thing since he turns down other events I’ve invited him too alongside my family. I find it odd that considering how they want nothing to do with me and cut him off earlier in the year/kicked him outta the house, that they want ME to do something for THEM.
I know I hold the cards in my hand to make or break this relationship even more. I’m highly debating on not giving it to him and watching what happens, but I know also in my heart that I feel like a jerk for doing it even if I’m always second place. I pushed away my friends for him and yet I could easily replace him with a friend at my graduation if I truly felt like there was no point in having that seat be empty. On top of that, I know his brother doesn’t like me either so that’s another nail in the coffin.
I don’t know what to do, if I should take it back or watch him be happy and know I’m still second place. Maybe that makes me evil for doing something like this but for 3 years, I think it’s my time to stand my ground with his family and not have me be the one who folds for them.
I need help please. Would I be a bad person if I turned it down and told him to figure it out on his own?