Am I the bad person in this situation?
I’m 34,but have a younger appearance. so I work in food service and a few months back a new colleague came in..and when he immediately looked at me he wouldn’t stop staring like a drooling wolf,immediately opens the door for me tries talking to me every chance he gets. (he is very hideous in appearance,and to make things much worse,he’s special needs) in truth I refuse to date colleagues period,but just when I thought this was a one time thing,it got worse. He finds me on facebook…I friend back not thinking anything of it (my first mistake) he starts commenting on things I repost..then he scrolls my profile and likes something from months ago…along with other things..the date I started a new dance school. Now I’m freaked out,BLOCKED. I’ve been stalked by others before (like a previous boss) so I immediately find the rest of his socials and block that too to be safe. A few months go by until he starts doing things for me at work,things that I should be doing (getting ice,emptying trash,replenishing things etc) that’s clearly a crush. this would happen once or twice a week..along with dropping his own things to get the door for me. I ignore all of it,but getting more creeped out now,I walk in with my earbuds in. He says: “hey” I race walk past. I start doing this more,he tries to talk to me..I stay silent and continue my job.
I’m now at a pace where when he tries to do something of mine I need to do,I get there first.
One day he opens the door for me x5 in a single shift..and meeting me at the door right as I walk through..we are getting desperate now. That’s enough.
The 10th time he tries it,he’s given the most scariest look,I mouth the word NO,and return to my station.
Sadly he still tries to attempt this at least x2 a day,but now I verbally say to his face NO.
he’s even giggled at me as I walked by! Ew 🤮
I am scared to go to my shifts now,and I can still see him stare at me at the corner of my eye..I’ve told other colleague friends but some of them laugh and think I’m overreacting.
Shockingly my parents believe me and tell me to just stay focused on my duties.
This boy is in his mid twenties and clearly very hardheaded.
I’ve worked with people like him in the past,and giving them any attention at all makes them believe you’re love interested. (that’s why I ignore him and run) am I the bad person? 🥺