u/KtheMage36

Example: After dinner my wife and I cuddled in bed to watch the movie "Hook" on the bedroom tv. After a while all 3 cats joined us and we enjoyed the movie. Usually in these situations we'd make out after the movie and go from there. However I felt so, emotionally, mentally and physically satisfied that I just didn't want sex and couldn't get aroused.

My problem:

I find myself more and more feeling that if I feel "satisfied" or loved enough I don't want sex. I can't get erect, I can't anything. I'm down to get my wife off, but several times she doesn't want to just 'get off' she wants to fuck and I can't get it going.

I have sildenfil and tadalafil both and can get erect other times but with her I feel so calm and loved that I cant get excited.

I was realizing earlier that maybe with other partners and with her I was maybe chasing sex to feel satisfied like it was a drug (I struggled with chronic masturbation in some of the more difficult times in my life). This is something I've made a note of to talk about in therapy Friday (this is personal therapy not a sex therapist for the 2 of us).

I have anxiety meds that don't interfere with arousal, and I'm excited to help here get there I just can't get exited enough to get hard and really go for penetrative sex.

To cover some other bases:

I am a 38 year old man.

I do have diabetes but other meds help me get hard in other situations.

I have had my Testosterone checked off and on since low t gave me severe mental health issues like depression and my T levels are average/acceptable now.

Im bi and watch porn maybe 3 times a week or so, and don't really have a type. Its usually just some blowjob porn and more hentai than human since she said a long time ago she doesn't mind hentai but human porn makes her feel I want that person.

While working tonight (I rearrange products at work for new and deleted goods) I am working in the vitamins department and saw several libido things for men and women. I was wondering if maybe I should try one if anyone has a suggestion or maybe yall have other ways to help.