okey so i need to clean this up because people are already poking holes in it my head.
this wasn't random. two weeks before that dinner, i was out whit my coworker at bar, not even a shady place, pretty normal.I saw my sister's fiance there around 11pm.i noticed him because he's hard to miss,same jacket he wears all the time, and he literally intoduced himself to me once in that exact outfit as a joke.i didn't stare at him the whole night or anything, it was more like catching him in bits while I was talking to my coworker but he stood out because of the jacket and the way he carries himself, like very calm, controlled, always composed.
he was with a blonde girl. what i saw wasn’t one perfect clear moment, more like a few small things that didn’t sit right when you connect them. he was close to her, his hand was on her lower back while they were moving through the bar, they were leaning in face to face to talk over the noise, and at one point she laughed and he kissed her cheek. it wasn’t dramatic, but it also didn’t feel like nothing.
i remember freezing for a second because i wasn’t supposed to be out there, my sister thought i was home, and i just felt uncomfortable about the whole situation. i didn’t go up to him, didn’t confront him, just left early. next day i thought about telling my sister, but i didn’t feel sure enough. like maybe i misread it, maybe there’s context i don’t know, and if i’m wrong i’m not just causing drama, i’m actually breaking something serious.so i stayed quiet.
fast forward to the dinner. it was an engagement dinner, both families, around 10 people. normal atmosphere at first. he starts talking about loyalty, saying he hasn’t even looked at another girl since meeting my sister. that’s what made it hit differently for me in that moment.
i didn’t plan anything. i just asked him if he was at that bar a couple weeks ago. he paused for a second, a very small hesitation, then said no and that i must be confusing him with someone else. so i mentioned what i remembered, the jacket, the blonde girl, how close they were, the cheek kiss. his expression changed and he said i was making it up because i don’t like him, which isn’t true, we barely interact. the table didn’t explode, it just got awkward fast. someone laughed awkwardly, my mom immediately said this isn’t the time and tried to stop it, not screaming, just tense and embarrassed. my sister just looked at him, not me, like she was waiting for him to explain it in a way that actually made sense.
I never sad he cheated.I just said what I saw
After they they left early. now he's texting me saying I humiliated him,my mom says I'm ambarrassed the family, and my sister hasn't said anything.
And I keep going back to same question, if he lies that easily in front of everyone,whoud it really be different if I told her in private? AITAH?