Hey guys. So my girlfriend said a comment to me “sometimes I wish you wouldn’t always make it about you.”
Context was, she came into the room saying she’s going to bed, feeling funky/weird. I say okay I’ll be in in a bit. I finish up what I was doing and head in there.
As soon as I do she’s non-verbal, I try to get just a few word reply just to know what’s going on and what the sudden 180 in mood/vibe was for, and it turned into a quick little argument. I told her I am always trying to make sure she’s okay, respect her space, her boundaries, support her mental space, etc.
But she told me “that’s what I’m talking about” and it confused the ever living fuck out of me.
I asked her if she could elaborate and she basically got mad at me, because I was assuming I did something wrong here, in which, if she walks up to me, talks to me just fine, grabs my hand and kisses it, i kiss hers back. Then I go up to the room and she acts like she doesn’t want me in a 10 mile radius, I feel like it’s not WRONG of me to suddenly think I did something wrong, especially when it was that fast..
She then told me “can’t I just be sad/depressed/manic on my own ever?”
She ABSOLUTELY can!! I’ve let her boil her in room many times over the years due to work, other people, etc.
But, idk if this is a ME issue or not lol, but whenever I’m feeling funky, I’ll calmly communicate with her “hey yeah sorry hun I’m just not feeling stuff today” “or I’ll straight up tell her I’m feeling kinda low today, she will get upset at me and say things like I’m “sucking the energy away” or “your sadness is bleeding onto me and ruining my moods”
I feel like I’m going crazy, am I over caring? We’ve been together for going on 5 years now and this wasn’t a thing before.