How to interact with a death doula?
So I guess important context here is that I’m youngish(21) and obviously completely over my head in all of this. My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer a few years ago. She went through treatment and was in remission until a couple months ago when she was diagnosed with stage 4 bone cancer. Obviously the whole family(Mom, Dad, Little Sister, and Me) is going through this process in a new way as outside of symptom management, there is little doctors say they can do. We’ve been given a 1-2 year outlook with hopes that radiation will be able to shrink the masses some and prolong that timeframe. Anyway I guess most of that isn’t actually important to my question. Mom has been meeting with and vetting Death Doulas which I think sounds like a great plan, but I honestly don’t know how to interact with them or what to expect from them. The research I’ve done has only really confused me more as it’s hard to find info on them that’s about the caregiver’s responsibilities and not how to become one. What little Ive been able to understand feels contradictory (For example I can’t tell if the doula would pick my sister up from school to give us time with mom or if they would stay home to care for mom while I/we picked up my sister) I guess it varies from person to person, but my day is easier if I know what to expect. So if you’re a death doula or have been the caregiver of someone with a death doula, any info or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.