Is there something wrong with me for leaving the airport without going on a pre-planned excursion with my fiancé and his son?
I (45F) travel fairly often, but I have significant anxiety around flying. Because of that, I plan trips very carefully, arriving early, using TSA Pre Check, and building in extra time to avoid unnecessary stress.
My fiancé (44M) and I planned a cross-country trip to visit his parents, and his 18-year-old son was coming with us. Ive been in my fiancé life for a while, and over the past 6 months his son has been very difficult, skipping school, being disrespectful, and not taking responsibility for things. This has been an ongoing source of stress.
On the day of the flight, I planned for us to leave about 3.5 hours before boarding. The drive to the airport takes around 1 hour 20 minutes, plus extra time for parking and getting to the terminal.
During the drive, my fiancé and his son said they were hungry, so we stopped at a sit-down restaurant. I agreed, but asked that we keep it quick. However, the route taken added extra time due to traffic, and we ended up arriving later than planned.
At the airport, we also ran into delays getting from parking to the terminal, which made things more stressful. When we got to security, my fiancé and I went through TSA Pre, Check while his son went through regular security. I had asked multiple times beforehand if he had proper ID, and was told yes, but it turned out he didn`t.
This caused additional delays for my fiancé and me, including extra screening. Meanwhile, his son went ahead through security on his own. The situation made me feel overwhelmed, especially since I rely on planning to manage my anxiety.
By the time we reached the gate, I was extremely stressed and upset. I told my fiancé how I was feeling, not just about the travel issues, but also about the ongoing concerns with his sons behavior. I said I didn`t feel comfortable continuing the trip under those circumstances.
My fiancé responded that it was my choice and that I could leave if I wanted to. When I asked if he really didnt care, he told me to go in a harsh tone.
At that point, I felt completely overwhelmed and decided to leave the airport instead of going on the trip.
Now I`m conflicted. I had been looking forward to the trip and feel disappointed, but I also felt like I reached my limit in that moment.
AITAH for leaving instead of going on the trip?
TL;DR:
I (45F) left the airport instead of going on a planned trip with my fiancé(44M) and his 18-year-old son after multiple delays and stress pushed me past my limit. AITAH?