u/Kiarostami-Lover

I have an exam tomorrow if MOS-II , Shear stress, shear flow, shear center, curved beam, unsymmetrical bending, theory of failure, creep and fatigue. I got very low marks in the mid exam and it's the final exam now, it's looking very difficult just to even pass the exam, I don't think I can pass it tomorrow.

I could really use some advice on how to manage my own anxiety and navigate communication in my current situation.

I’ve been seeing a girl and we have a very deep connection. Things recently got physical (making out, cuddling), but after that, she communicated that she wanted to slow down.

There is an imbalance in our feelings right now. I am very much in love with her, and she knows this. She has been honest with me that while she likes me a lot, her feelings for me fluctuate and aren't constant yet.

Recently, she noticed my attachment and suggested we step back to being friends because she was terrified of breaking my heart if her feelings changed. I talked with her, assured her I accepted the risks, and we kept things going.

Currently, she prefers that we take "communication breaks." She likes to create distance so we don't text just out of habit, which helps build anticipation. Normally, these gaps last about two days. But right now, we are on a week of zero contact.

Because I have such strong feelings for her, and knowing her feelings fluctuate, this amount of space is causing me a lot of anxiety. I am struggling to focus and constantly checking my phone. I want to respect her need for space to build anticipation, but the silence is really tough on me.

My questions are:

How do you personally cope with anxiety and overthinking when someone you are seeing asks for space?

How can I communicate my feelings about this gap without coming across as overwhelming or suffocating?

When someone asks for space to "miss each other," how long do you usually wait before reaching out just to check in?

Has anyone successfully dated through a phase where feelings were this unbalanced? How did you handle your own expectations?

Any practical advice on how to handle my anxiety and communicate better would be appreciated.

I could really use some outside perspective on this because I feel like I'm losing my mind.

I’ve been seeing a girl and we have a crazy deep connection, she’s literally the only person who makes my mind feel completely at peace. Things recently got physical (making out, cuddling), but after that, she wanted to slow down.

Here is the major catch, there is a massive imbalance in our feelings. I am completely, very much in love with her. She knows this. She has been honest with me that while she likes me, and sometimes likes me a lot, she doesn't love me, and her feelings for me are not constant.

Recently, she noticed how attached I was getting and actually suggested we step back and just be normal friends. Her reasoning was that because her feelings fluctuate, she was terrified of breaking my heart down the line if things changed. I talked her out of it, made her understand that I accept her choices whatever happens, and we managed to keep things going.

Now I am dealing with this new rule she has: taking communication breaks.

She doesn't want us texting every single day out of habit. She wants to create distance so we actually build anticipation and miss each other. Normally, these gaps last about two days. But right now, it's been a week of absolutely zero contact, and the silence is pure torture.

I understand her logic about keeping the spark alive, but because I am so in love with her, and because I know her feelings aren't fully locked in, this gap is making me crazy anxious. I’m just sitting here trying to pretend I’m not constantly looking at my phone. I feel like I'm dying just wanting to talk to her.

I want to respect her boundaries, but this feels like a really long time to just completely ignore each other.

So my questions for you guys are:

Knowing her feelings fluctuate, is this "texting break" actually about building anticipation, or is she slowly pulling away?

Has anyone successfully navigated a relationship where one person is in love and the other's feelings aren't constant?

How do I stop going crazy and overthinking during these gaps without suffocating her?

Should I just break the silence and text her, or wait for her to come to me so I don't look overly attached?

Any advice would be appreciated.