hi there, newly minted trans lesbian here. and new to this community :3
i’ve been transitioning for about 2 years now, and things have been great; i feel amazing as a femme enby. however, in the last two months i’ve come to understand my sexuality far better, after never truly thinking or allowing myself to accept that i am sexual and have desires, and it’s felt liberating to understand myself as a lesbian. hormones will do that to ya lol
but what i am running into is that as i understand this better, new forms of imposterism creep up, primarily around my genitals. it feels like because i’m pre-op, and im not entirely sure if i want to get bottom surgery (though, i admit it’s getting more and more interesting to me), i will always be understood in more distant manners in lesbian spaces, and not be able to satisfy a partner who would have a genital preference for pussy. like… that preference seems pretty damn important to lesbian/sapphic identity! to not have that feels like i am not enough to be a lesbian and satisfy another person, let alone myself. i wish i could have intimacy in a lesbian way, but i feel like my genitals are wrong for that kind of intimacy.
ig i really want to know if it is as important as i think it is, and i am really looking for a community of folks that i can feel at home with.
edit: i know it’s only been an hour but im really just overwhelmed with how much support i’ve gotten!! i can’t thank you all enough, i’ve read every single word yall are saying and it’s helped me a lot to reframe how i think, understand lesbianism, and understand myself. truly, thank you from the bottom of my heart! yall are so welcoming and amazing 💖