My aunt was mad at me bc I did nothing for her on mother's day
It's been around 3 years that I started living with my aunt because I came to study and work from another state, and she offered her house, which I'm so grateful. And last Sunday was mothers day, so I told her Happy Mothers day that morning, and that's it.
She had a special lunch that day with her husband, her son and her daughter in law while I went to work.
Then when I got back home I noticed she was a little upset, she made remarks on my messy room, so I thought that was the reason. Then the next day, on Monday, I asked her for advice to buy a birthday gift for my uncle, her husband, since his anniversary is 2 days after mothers day, and she saw my messages but didn't respond back.
When I got home after my class finished, she was still mad at me, so I asked her if I did something wrong to her, and she's not the type to hold, so she said she was upset that I didn't prepare any gift to her, even a simple flower, that in life everything is give and take, and that I was taking her for granted, that I didn't valued her, that I only worried about my uncle gift. But that's not true!
In my family, my father's side they're Jehovah's Witness, it's a religion where they are not allowed to celebrate anything, not even their own birthdays. And although my father is not a practicing member of the religion, there are some aspects that remained in my upbringing so I struggle a lot with these commemorative dates, but even so, I try to do something—at least for birthdays. ( My mom's side is catholic, my aunt is my mom's sister)
And my aunt is aware of this upbringing of mine. On top of that, I am mentally and physically exhausted because I work seven days a week—holding two jobs—and I also attend college in the evenings. So I had no time to think of anything, and I was more worried to prepare a gift for her birthday, that's going to be soon.
I got so sad when she said that I was taking her for granted that I started crying, because I really love her, and I always try to help her with everything I can, since her 2 sons live far away. And I got upset with myself for not thinking that she could be sad that I didn't give her anything. Even with my own mother, I usually just congratulate and thank her for being my mom; I only actually give her a gift on her birthday and at Christmas.
So now I don't know what to do... Should I prepare something for my aunt now? I don't want her to be upset because of that. But then, she won't like it either, because I will have done it just because she said so.
Can someone give me advice, so our relationship doesn't become awkward.