u/KeyProposal5368

My 50 year old husband makes fun of people especially some people in our circle who used to be his friends first. He acts like he is 25. He neither is rich and I now feel that he lacks basic etiquettes and manners on how to be social. His jokes seem like personal attacks. I have been called by multiple people in my circle to complaint about him and I have numerous times told him to stop. He would stop and get back to it after a few months. It’s affecting our social life and my relationship with my friends.I hang out with the wives and he sometime hangs out with the husbands. Between those people he will pass remarks which people talk about behind his back and I get to hear about them from the wives. My husband genuinely does not have friends. His old circle from college recently had a get together and didn’t invite him. He didn’t bother making friends now and Everytime he opens his mouth it’s embarrassing as he will pass comments on people like it’s not a big deal. Truth is that he himself is not financially stable and cannot run the house without my help but he makes fun of people who are trying to make connections and start something new. For instance a friend of ours let’s say his name is U just bought a restaurant and was trying for it for months. He mentioned many times infront of me that how U is begging that guy to sell it to him. It’s demeaning and insulting. I told him many times I admire U for atleast trying. In response he says it’s not U it’s his brother who is supporting him so well. I feel he is jealous of how people make connections and he is not able to do it. U's wife heard the remarks (hubby made it infront of men in the group) and someone told them. She called me to tell me that U is hurt by the remarks. I apologize but this has happened multiple times now. We have been married 21 years and I'm at my threshold of dealing with his behaviour. He will say I am stopping but comes back to it again. Tldr husband keeps mocking our friends and expects people not to react.