hi! i dont ever really make posts like this but im at a loss of what to do. i will preface this by saying i have bpd and i work around it or through it. i've always handled my bpd by knowing what upsets me and stepping away or trying to then affirm my connections with people so i dont break them off. i have it really bad when it comes to relationships especially friendships.
the reason im making this post is because i have another friend who has bpd and i feel like she doesn't even try to manage it. which can be hard i know and ive tried to give her insight and be patient. i just don't know how to help her and i dont want to stop being friends. shes also very vulnerable with relationships and will call me tell me she hates me then ask me why im hanging up and i dont care about her but she loves me etc. she is completely fine most of the time but when she feels i dont think shes special she blows up on me very bad. i understand having bpd doesn't excuse these actions but im just trying to find a way to help comfort her or assure her when shes splitting on me. i wanted to ask advice from other bpd people because when im splitting i know i need to step away because the assurance i suddenly really want from the person im about to tweak out on is never going to come because they cant read my mind. its also not others responsibilities to heavily randomly emotionally invest themselves because for some reason me not being on instagram close friends means i have to cut contact when im feeling wicked. anyways i just dont know how to assure her split.