I'm looking to modifying my current plan with my coparent (CP). CP lives 7.5 hours away and has had a years long pattern of inconsistency. CP also has a younger non joint child that was left at school multiple times and the school could not make contact with CP to pick up that child. That child's other parent provided my lawyer with an affidavit of those instances and combined with CP's patterns of dropping off the face of the earth for our child, the judge gave very little parenting time for CP when we modified 4 years ago.
Fast forward to now, CP does not use even half of what was awarded. No calls/ no shows for the majority of the parenting time. The only parenting time instances that have been used only took place because a family member reached out on CPs behalf and offered to facilitate transportation and flights.
CP also has a pattern of not making sure our child is present for school related events that fall during their parenting time, and either doesn't respond on our parenting app, or responds simply to tell me they'll do what they please regardless of the order. CP has also argued in messages about our exchange dates and comes up with other random days/times even though our order gives very specific days for exchanges.
I've kept a log of all the missed time, missed school events, the messages claiming random exchange days, and I have therapy notes that reflect increased anxiety in our child due to the instability and unpredictable schedule.
I don't have money for a lawyer at all. I am still paying off my lawyer from 4 years ago and have exhausted savings, retirement funds, family help, ect. Is this worth pursuing? My hope is that I can modify the order to have CP confirm in advance if they plan to use parenting time, and to shorten the summer and winter break parenting time since going all year not seeing CP and then traveling down for weeks at a time is really tough for our child. Thanks for your thoughts on this.