Hey everyone! This is going to be a long post, my apologies.
Backstory:
I have been talking to this guy for 2.5 months, everything was going very well. We talked all day everyday, called each other basically every night. It was honestly my dream situation in a way, I love keeping each other updated throughout the day with pictures/videos and debriefing everything at the end of the day on the phone. Overall, him and I get along very well.
The only downside of this: we are long distance (Canada & America). The distance was always a bit of a worry in my mind but we were getting along so well and communicating so well. I genuinely wasn’t worried at all (I overthink a lot and really value reassurance). It sounds crazy because 2.5 months isn’t a super long time but I was 100% willing to go see him in America (he does not have the opportunity to travel freely like I do because of his job, although he did mention looking to come see me when he has the opportunity). The distance being an issue has never been mentioned before btw.
Anyways, since I tend to over think a lot I was saying affirmations almost daily and they furthered how surprisingly calm and secure I felt despite being an anxiously attached over thinker.
I would say to myself:
“I’m the only girl he wants”
“He only wants me”
We were on the phone one night and he repeated my EXACT affirmation back to me. He said “you’re the only person I want”. Honestly, I was shocked because someone repeating my affirmation to me verbally hasn’t happened to me before.
Things were going well until I told SP that one of my male friends invited me out somewhere (they both knew about each other) and my SP became uncomfortable with the invitation. I provided reassurance and gave him space, he told me he was not mad just found it a little odd how close my friend and I are (we’ve been friends for 6+ years).
Then in the middle of the night, we are having a conversation and I mention how we haven’t talked all day. Suddenly he tells me how texting someone so far away isn’t a priority for him and how there are other things he needs to focus on. I completely understand where he is coming from but the complete turn around really shocked me. We went from talking all day to me being on delivered all day and ending things. He also mentioned how much he likes me and how this sucks because “right person wrong time”.
At this point I am obviously sad and kind of confused by this complete turnaround. I can’t stop thinking about how if my friendship with my male friend made him suddenly change his mind or what it could have been. I really did not see this coming at all.
Anyways, I feel like I don’t even know what to do anymore. SP was repeating my exact affirmations to me and suddenly things aren’t going to work out? Should I keep persisting? Do I just let it go? I really like my SP and I know he feels the same way so this was very unexpected. Apart of me feels like maybe he is going through something personal and decided to in my opinion, randomly end things. I am hurt and confused, is there any point for me to keep trying?:(
Thank you if you read this post, I know it’s long. I hope it makes sense. I also hope no one thinks I’m crazy for how much I like SP in such a short amount of time. We built a really great connection since we talked so much daily.
Any advice would be appreciated:) thank you.