u/Key-Yogurt5743

I recently stopped working for a family after dealing with a payment dispute with them owing me a lot of money and them refusing to pay. Now that I no longer work for them, I realized I still have a garage door clicker for their garage that they lent to me while I was full time there.

Is it worth it to give back? They did not ask for it back or even mention it, but am I still obligated to? If I did I’d just like put it straight in their mailbox without a note or anything, but is it even worth it? I feel like on one hand I should because then they cant even think like oh yeah she still has our garage clicker we should change our codes or whatever- idk im totally overthinking it but idk if it is a bad look on my part to keep it (or just throw it away but they dont actually know that I do so). They’re completely in the wrong with the whole situation as to why I no longer work for them, but I’m also someone that prides myself on maintaining the upper hand and being the “bigger person” no matter what so I can’t be perceived as anything but. what would u do?

I bought poly mailers because I was running out of packaging to reuse hahah but they’re all the same color. I’m currently packing up like 10 to bring to the post office tomorrow, and was wondering if anyone has any advice on what to do if needing to differentiate different packages? Also for more context I do the QR code at the post office to save tape and printer ink so that’s why I need help with this!! Thanks!!

So I recently had a really bad experience with a NF who I never thought in a million years would screw me over, but of course, they did, and what hurt the most about it was how close we had gotten. Because I was there so often, I had grown really close with the parents, the mom specifically, I’m sure other nanny’s/babysitters can relate to the feeling of the parents you work for at times feeling like your “closest friends” as you are literally either there working or alone in your own home.

Without going into specifics that don’t really matter to my question, when this family screwed me over they actually used something I had casually spoken about with them as basically a defense tactic. It totally caught me off guard and I felt really disrespected.

So I was wondering, what do you guys think is the line you shouldn’t ever cross when discussing your personal life with the parents? I’m obviously not referring to like sex talk or anything crazy like that, I’d never do that no matter how close we are or how long I’d been with them. I guess maybe I mean like when you consider personal life topics in tiers like an iceberg, what would be the most personal you’d go?

This is really only specific for nanny’s who have been with families for long term, as well as parents in general who may have opinions. I guess I’m just curious on opinions for the future and just in general. I also know everyone is different but maybe just a general idea of what people’s thoughts are!