u/Key-Paint-9282

I’m not sure if I’m overreacting, so I wanted to ask for advice.

For context, I sometimes send my boyfriend Starbucks or a snack or meal before his work shift as a surprise. I usually have it delivered and left at his door. It is my way of doing something thoughtful for him.

Earlier, we were on a video call when his neighbor commented that he has been getting a lot of Uber deliveries. My boyfriend just laughed and said “I know.” He did not mention me at all. He also told me that his coworkers tease him, saying things like he is late because of Starbucks or asking why he did not buy any for them.

So I asked him why he does not just tell people that the food is from his girlfriend so they would stop making comments. That is when I started wondering if he might be hiding me. He told me he does tell them about me, but I still felt unsure.

I asked him again if he really tells people, why he did not just say earlier that it was from me when his neighbor brought it up. He did not really give a clear answer, and now I do not know what to believe.

After the call ended, I messaged him and told him how I feel. I said it feels like he does not appreciate what I do for him and that maybe he is not proud to have me as his girlfriend.

Now I just feel hurt and confused. AIO for feeling this way?

[Edit: Im a Filipina born and raised in the Philippines while he is a Filipino, born in the US, raised in the Philippines and currently lives there with his family]

For context, I’m a Filipina with tan skin. I like outdoor activities, and my boyfriend is light-skinned (Fil-Chi). We’ve been together for almost a year. During a video call, he said that if we have kids someday, he wants them to look like me because I’m pretty, but he hopes they get his skin color. He said he’s worried they might get bullied.

I told him I’ve never experienced anything like that. I’m not even dark-skinned. I’m what people call morena.

It made me feel insecure and disheartened. I told him that if he really wants someone light-skinned, then maybe he should be with someone like that instead of staying with me and making me feel insecure.

Now I don’t know if I’m overreacting or if he actually meant it in a good way.