i feel like such an awful, terrible person. he’s had such a terrible life and obtained ZERO coping skills as a result. i love him enough to have begged him to go to therapy and just talk to someone unbiased about how low he feels. it took a bit of coaxing, but he agreed and i was so so proud of him.
now i have egg of my face because he did and it might be ruining us.
after his third session last night he came home and just unloaded on me. told me about all of the grievances he’s been bottling up since the start of us getting serious. some i understood and promised to change, some complete blindsided me and didn’t make a ton of sense tbh. i’m still proud of him, and i know he needs to learn to state his issues in the moment (he’s v non-confrontational), but it was a LOT. and i feel weird about bringing it up with my own therapist who i don’t even see for two weeks because it feels like a violation of his privacy…?
i’m happy he’s getting himself sorted out, but if it means he’s continually going to come home “enlightened” about all the things wrong with us without me there to defend myself, i might not be able to withstand it.
am i a shitty person?
the prep for a butternut squash tomato soup that I just can’t seem to find the energy to roast/blend/cook
edit: thank you for all the lovely advice. i want to make this work and so i will be speaking with my therapist and looking into finding a good option for couples therapy. i can be defensive when criticized, and he is learning how to express his thoughts in a healthy way, so its a process. hopefully we’ll be able to work through this together!
edit #2: it’s a little disheartening to see how many of these comments are veering from the spirit of this sub. okay, yes, i’m a mean girlfriend for shutting down when he opened up about what he dislikes about me/our relationship, now please just keep scrolling if you are going to be needlessly mean. be a jerk in a productive way!!
heaven forbid a girl vent on a subreddit meant for girls to vent, good lord