to start, I am aware of the age gap and that is not part of my issue at all. if youre going to comment on the age gap, just dont. it isnt relevant to this issue, I just put it because you have to include the ages for these posts.
anyway, like the title says im having a hard time with my partner possibly being autistic. nothing is officially diagnosed, and I dont know how to explain it other than, its kind of obvious. and to back that, even me just briefly explaining his behavior to my therapist warranted her saying she also thinks he may be autistic. which to preface, I have no issue with and if hes autistic thats perfectly fine, I just think it makes me worry that im being inconsiderate when I get hurt or sensitive over the way he does things. for example, hes really really blunt sometimes, and honestly says things in a way that just sounds rude to me. ive been told im a sensitive and emotional person my entire life so part of me thinks that it isnt a big deal and im just being sensitive, and in addition to him possibly being autistic I try to give him some grace. I try to explain that the way he says stuff sometimes comes across as rude and hurts me, which he says he tries to fix, but i feel like it just keeps happening over and over. for example, I recently cut my hair and the first thing he said was "I know youre not gonna like it in a week", which he then explained is because how ive in the past gotten haircuts that i didnt like. which like yeah I guess makes sense, but it just really rubbed me the wrong way, especially because I was really happy and excited with my haircut (and its been more than a week and I still like it so -_-). but its little things like that in the middle of conversations that just kinda put me off :/ I'm not really sure how to navigate this or how to treat having an autistic partner because of course I want to accommodate to him and be understanding, but it still hurts me sometimes. how should I handle this?