u/Key-Entertainer6734

English is not my native language, but I love it so much as well because there’s not so many gendered words compared to my native language. Like, in English I can say “I walked down the street” and that wouldn’t be gendered at all, but in my native language almost all verbs in forms that used more usually in daily speech are gendered and this is a big pain for me. And also there’s no alternative to they/them because there’s either literally “it” in English or plural form (we), so there’s no way to use gender neutral words and don’t sound very weird. And if I try to use he/she, people just refer to me as my AGAB all the time and that’s shit. Praise English for its neutrality🙏

Okay, it’s been difficult journey for me to finally find myself. For some time I thought I’m transmask, for others that I’m cis woman, but now I strongly feel that nonbinary fits me most. So, I find it kinda important to come out to at least someone to finally feel valid and comfortable and for them to stop using only she/her pronouns, I don’t like that. But there’s a problem: I’ve always convinced everyone (myself included lol) around me that I’m cis woman (I did that bc I look kinda androgynous and even masculine, and that raised questions sometimes) and I feel like it would be weird to at some point just “ahh, remember I told you that I’m cis woman? Convinced you with all my might and with a lot of arguments? Forget that, I’m actually nonbinary”. Do you have any advices what can I do so this process wouldn’t be weird and embarrassing?