Need objective thoughts: naming after a tragic family death
Ever since my husband and I first started discussing kids he mentioned wanting to name after his sister who died when he was younger. the name is actually very beautiful, it’s classic, known but not very common and has some cute nicknames, so the name itself is not a concern and likely one I would’ve considered anyway.
his sibling has had a child before us and chose not to use it because it’s “bad luck”. the death was very sudden and tragic and without going into details obviously devastated not just his family but the entire wider family too.
my question is: will our daughter constantly be a reminder of this and not have her own identity? my husband says no, that’s it’s an honor to name after her and people will be happy to have the name in the family again. in his culture it is very common, expected even, to name after relatives.
I guess I’m looking for objective pros and cons, especially if you have done this yourself and how it has worked out. I just don’t want them to feel this unshakable association especially with their grandparents