u/KaiBann

Ok so for context, the last post I made was about me wanting to the toxic habit of creating false victimhood when people bring up to me that I hurt them and while taking the advice from those comments I've noticed that might lack empathy which also leads into that habit and would like to know if anyone has had the experience of learning to be more empathetic so I can do better at seeing and understanding the pain others around me are experiencing

recently my eyes have been opened to this but I've noticed i end up playing the victim when I've hurt someone's feelings and they bring it up to me and i make it about myself and yes i know that very narcissistic and really hurtful to the other person
i would really like please advice on how to work on and fix this behavior