u/KOi__fish

So this happened night before last. he was getting increasingly angry at the game he was playing but I kept minding my own business, yet getting more and more uncomfortable (I hate being around angry men for past trauma reasons, he knows this but I also understand that it’s a normal emotion when controlled). then my cat, who can definitely be annoying, jumped on top of his PC and started messing with cables. he got up, grabbed her by her scruff, and threw her out of the room. I got upset at him and he told me he didn’t know it would hurt her, which okay he doesn’t have cats of his own and a lot of people don’t know it can hurt them but I told him he specifically picked her up like that because he was angry. I understand scolding at her or moving her out of the room but the way he did it was just rough. I got a half assed apology which pissed me off, I grabbed my other cat, said “come on before you piss him off even more” and slammed the door. which I get was childish but I was upset. then later that night after not talking to each other at all, he grabs a bag and leaves the house for like 2 hours (maybe from 1am-3am?) I text him asking where he’s going he says he’s just stepping out. I try to extend an olive branch and say “right. just be safe. don’t drive stupid” instead of saying what I really wanted to say which was “hope you enjoy her company” or something along those lines. the mind games of leaving so late at night and not even telling me (we have a ring camera which is how I knew he left) just pissed me off even more and have since concluded that i’m just gonna keep ignoring him. because 1) I don’t play about my cats. don’t touch my cats. and 2) don’t play mind games with me? it’s not right to inadvertently hurt me just because we’re upset with each other. so am I overreacting?