it is a natural occurance for me to have retroactive jealousy, i just couldn’t help myself but to feel insecure about their past relationship, since she was his first love, and first long term relationship—and would tell me stories that it was her that thought him how to love genuinely (told me back then when we were just talking). it was hard for him to get over her, to the point that he moved back to his parents so that he wouldn’t feel much alone, and so that he wouldn’t think about hurting himself. until i came into the frame, i changed every perspective he had about love, he would always thank me about pulling him out of misery, loneliness, and showed him kindness—which he never felt in his past relationship, because they were toxic. even though my partner would always give me reassurance about having retroactive jealousy, i always had a gut feeling that at some point he still misses her.
me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for about a year and a half now. these past few days—we’ve been arguing alot lately, due to long distance and having financial struggles that leads to not seeing each other very much often.
so let me get into the point, i like to open his account to listen to new music he discovers, and i saw his old playlists that is about missing his ex, and a playlist that is about her (their relationship ig?), and he added a few songs a week ago. i don’t know how to feel and react, i’d like to confront him about it, but i don’t want it to lead into an argument again since we’ve been doing good lately, and i really don’t like arguing. however, i do want to get your insights about this, if you consider this as cheating?
TL;DR do you consider it cheating when your partner misses their ex?
(p.s. i will talk to him about this, but i’d like to be more open and get a fresh perspective about this, because i might just be overreacting. thanks!)