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My boyfriend and I have been doing long distance for a year now, both in college, his being more well known and ranked than mine so he has more hours of classes. Because of that we never really do any deep talks except when there is some disagreement or argument. The usual messages are just 2-3 continuous texts then long hours no texting (sometimes 7 hours). Now this is the case of texting and voice calls are a rarity, once or twice a month. Because of this i miss him very much and there is this dissatisfaction that is growing within me with our relationship. I have voiced it a few times which always ends up in a major fight where he says i always feel like he doesn't do enough in our relationship and that he is a monster. Earlier i used to completely disregard how i felt at that moment and console him and try to mend our relationship but now i don't even do that, because what i feel will not go away. Even if he has exams or not he is never fully present there. And now when his semester is finally over and zero burden, so i asked if we could call because it had been a month since the last one and there is still a no( cuz he wants to hang out with his friends) and the scarce texting is still there.
I don't know if i am overreacting, if this is how its supposed to be everywhere and i can't stop thinking about it. I can't tell him how i fell rn cuz it's the same thing we always fight about and he js tired from that and j don't want another fight. I also don't want to ruin our relationship based on overthinking. Please help.