u/JusticeAndArts4All

Hi. I just found this group and I'm really glad I did. I've been feeling out of place as I've been navigating appointments with reproductive endocrinology and now with a high risk ob-gyn while also repeatedly reminding everyone that my partner and I are NOT trying to conceive right now (current hope is to start TTC in 2 or 3 years). We're doing work-ups and the counseling session so we can have all the information to best plan the future (as well as start any preventative measures sooner rather than later to give us the best chances for successful and safer pregnancies once we ARE in the best place to try). I'm wondering if others have gone through all of this and how you handled it all. Are there questions I should be asking that might not be as obvious? How do you approach talking about all this with other providers or friends and family? It's all SO MUCH and I feel so conflicted on whether or not to talk to folks about it, especially as someone who will definitely be categorized as high risk because of some health stuff (not deadly risk level, but much higher risk for complications). I even feel awkward when I go to appointments and everyone else is waiting for the next step in their IVF or fertility assistance journey, meanwhile I'm not trying anything yet. The providers have all been so amazing so far, and I know having a rough plan and the full information on chances and risks will make a huge difference for me, my partner, and a few of my normal providers, but I wish I had some friends I could turn to about this and I just feel like I cant. Any advice, support, or encouragement would be greatly appreciated.