u/Justamom2013

So a little backstory. There is myself and two sisters. Our dad has passed away, so all that’s left. Is our mom and each other of course. When our dad passed away, we girls signed over all of the funds in our state that we were legally supposed to get to our mom so that she was able to live comfortably on her own, which was no problem. It equated to maybe 13,000 each. Fast forward our younger sister has two kids. She is a single mom. My other sister and I are married and live financially comfortably. So our younger sister for the last year or so has been living with our mom and paying for utilities only (recently hasn’t been the whole time) and groceries for herself and her kids and sometimes my mom too. But my mom pays the mortgage and has a roommate as well that pays some of that mortgage.
Our sister is wanting to get a house mainly so that she doesn’t have to live with my mom‘s roommate because they don’t get along. However, our mother had suggested what if our sister bought her house and my mom would be able to cash out have some money so that she can spend and do some stuff with, the roommate moved out, and my sister would own the house. Now keep in mind my mom has no other inheritance the only inheritance us three girls were going to get was the sale of her house when ever she passes away. So with that being said our mom had said if she sold her the house she would give us other two girls some cash now out of what she made off the house. And then our sister who would be buying the house would down the road if she decided to sell use whatever equity and stuff like that to purchase her next house(this currently would give her roughly 60k+ in instant equity and my other sister and I are getting $5k each to do it now. My sister and I agreed and we’re fine with it.
However, our sister called us today and asked us about instead of buying the house. What if our mom just puts the house in her name? Basically her name on the deed and not buy the house right now, but just in case something happened to our mom that she would be able to get the house and it would not go to probate. My other sister and I were like if that happens, we all need to be on the deed because if something happens to our mom, we will never see any inheritance at all if our sister at that point becomes the sole owner of the house.
Basically what I’m asking are me and my other sister the assholes for not technically giving our other sister the house with all the equity and us basically get nothing but maybe $5000 each (which our younger sister said she would pay us once she sold the house later) . Or do we stand our ground and say if she does not buy our mom‘s house now that we all three need to be on the deed, not just her and we would split the profits on the house at that point. We even offered for us other two to take 25% and she get 50% to help her out but she doesn’t think that’s fair and that we should just get 5k each then so she can buy something else.