u/Just_a_schwa

Cześć! I've been learning Polish for a couple years now and something recently happened that made me seek an answer to this question:

What would be the difference in connotation between compliments such as ładny, piękny, śliczny, miły, przystojny (I know this one is similar to English "handsome"), słodki, fajny, itd? What are the closest English equivalents for each?

(A dear friend that I have a platonic crush on replied to my selfie with "Wyglądasz ślicznie" and now I need to know how charged it was lmao)

Dziękuję wam!

Don't take the title the wrong way; I know all autistic people are 100% autistic.

I'm going through some stressful feelings about my social existence as a late-diagnosed, low supports need autistic person, and I need to get this off my chest. Thanks to anyone who will take the time to read.

Basically I've spent my entire formative years feeling wrong, having little to no social life, and my only two friends were very obviously neurodivergent. Even after my diagnosis (that I got only after getting a second opinion), seeing other autistics always triggered some massive imposter syndrome. I wasn't "clockable" like them. Nobody ever told me I seemed autistic. Nobody caught it. Even my first assessment when I was 17. My parents don't believe my diagnosis at all.

And yet an aunt suggested them to get me checked up when I was a child because she thought "something was wrong with me". And I've been bullied for years by my peers. Been called a weirdo. Been talked to like I was a baby by my high school classmates. I'm simultaneously "not autistic enough" and "too autistic".

I've been unmasking since I got my diagnosis a few years ago, and it’s been awful around allistics and neurotypicals in general. Now that I let myself yap, no longer feeling like what goes through my mind isn't worthwhile, "embracing the cringe", I have started speaking too much. I let myself infodump all the time. I can sense I make allistics low-key uncomfortable, confused, or just bored, but I can't help it. It just needs to come out. If I don't communicate in an autistic way, I just wouldn't talk at all.

Worst feeling is when my sister, who is very neurodivergent-positive (suspecting being ADHD herself), interrupts me when I infodump because she gets bored. She does that in jest, but it hurts me so much, idk why. I guess I like to think we should be allowed to act in socially inappropriate but harmless ways in an ideal world where people accept autism, but her doing this is like telling me it's not acceptable?

Does anybody else ever feel this way, or has gone through something like this? I'm not necessarily looking for advice but it is very welcome.