I [30F] think my bf [30M] hates being productive
Ive lived with my boyfriend for just over a year. I moved into his house because he owns and I lived with a roommate. Moving in with him meant leaving city life for the burbs (which I’ve never really been a fan of). I’m only 10ish mins from the city but where we are is deff not walkable and his house is small (2bed/1bath) one room is our bedroom and the other is his office so I don’t really have a space for me.
I have a lot of local friends and a really active social life. I am super active, have an active job, go to the gym 5 times a week, play pickleball, volleyball, go on walks etc. He is similar but works from home, doesn’t have many local friends, and only plays pickleball and volleyball with me because I ask him to. If he didn’t I think he’d honestly only leave the house for the gym and to walk our 2 dogs. (I’ve tried encouraging him to sign up for sports leagues without me or attend pick up games of soccer, etc)
He doesn't come from a family that values having a comfortable and clean living space so the first few months of living together meant me having to show him how to clean, when to clean, how to declutter, etc. and that was a source of contention for us for a while.
I try to be super productive and active, and he sleeps in on the weekends unless I plan something or wake him up.
Lately we’ve been working on trying to make our backyard somewhere I can hang out and it’s taking quite a bit of yard work which he’s been doing the bulk of but complaining about a lot and because he wakes up at 815 to roll out of bed walk the dogs, and log into work at 830, works from home M-F, i feel like this yard work shouldn't come with as many complaints as it does.
i just get so turned off by his lack of initiative, discipline, and low activity level.